One of my all-time favorite movies is “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” (as quirky as it may be). I have literally watched this movie at least 60 times! Yes, it seems crazy, but I find the film TOTALLY hilarious! I especially love the teaching concept behind this “what NOT to do” movie.
Over the years, I have had many “what NOT to do” moments, and when I think back at how silly I must have looked and sounded, it’s no wonder that my dates ran for the hills! Thank the good Lord, I know better now.
Recently I decided to interview a few ladies and see if I could dig up more “what NOT to do” moments. The stories they shared were funny, ridiculous, and a few were completely absurd. After my interviews, I realized that losing a guy in 10 minutes or less isn’t all that rare. I suppose that makes it my job to help all the wayward women of the world become better dates.
So in the spirit of “keeping your man”, I’m going to share the top 7 ways that women can lose a man in 10 minutes or less.
1. Talking About Your ‘Ex’ Too Much. The last person a man wants to hear about is your ‘ex’. They are not interested in how horrible, despicable or unfaithful he was (even if these things are true). A man wants to be the “guy on your mind” and he doesn’t want to compete with your ex.
2. Complaining A Lot. I’ve heard it a million times. Men can’t stand women that complain about every little thing and whine about nothing. They immediately tune you out and everything you say pretty much sounds like Charlie Brown’s teacher “ Wah, Wah, Wah, Wah, Wah”.
3. Trying To Monopolize All Of Their Time. Men like to have “guy” time just as much as we like to have “girl” time. They love to sit around with other fellas and just do guy stuff with no pressure to do anything other than to be a guy. Let them have their time. He’ll thank you later.
4. Being Over Zealous About Your Beliefs. Women that are too radical in their beliefs turn men off. Men are attracted to women who they deem supportive and not judgmental. Forcing strong beliefs down his throat makes him feel judged and afraid that he won’t measure up to your standards.
5. Constantly Talking About Your Weight And Your Flaws. I’m guilty of this too! From the interviews I’ve had with men, THEY DON”T CARE about your stretch marks, the rolls on your back or the cellulite in your thighs. Don’t sell your flaws to him.
6. Being a Potty Mouth. When a woman curses like a truck driver, a guy is often reminded of being around the fellas, and that is how they are going to treat you. CURTAIL THE CURSING, most men don’t consider it ladylike.
7. Being a Gossip Girl. Most men think it’s a HUGE waste of time. If you talk about everybody, then he starts to think that no one is off limits… including him. Exercise some decorum and keep the conversation about you and him and the things that matter to you both.
